When I was going through an extremely rough time of dealing with a move to another state, a new baby, postpartum anxiety and my older son finally getting his diagnosis and having to add a lot more therapies to our lives, all within the span of a few months, I so badly needed support.  I needed a friend who could come beside me and encourage me.  A special needs mama who could understood what the journey was like.  Someone else struggling with postpartum anxiety to share in the struggles and the victories.  Until I found someone in one of those similar situations, I pasted a tired smile on my face and acted like all was well in my life.  That I was fine.  But I wasn’t.  I was lonely and anxious and depressed and desperate for a friend, someone to talk to who wasn’t my husband.

God designed us to need each other to support and encourage each other, and I begged God to send me someone, or several someones who could be my friends and my support on this painful journey I was traveling.

The first connections I found were online on Facebook groups.  It felt great to know there were people in the world in similar situations who could share their questions, their struggles and victories and be general support.

But what our hearts truly need is a face-to-face friend.  Someone we can call or text or meet for coffee and share our hearts’ struggles and desires.

It took me a while to find these friends, but when I did, oh how it brought relief to my soul!  Oh, how I rejoiced in God’s provision and marvelled at how He orchestrated our paths to cross.  Oh, how it encouraged me and strengthened me and gave me hope and made me truly believe that I was no longer alone.

Importance of finding support when you're in a lonely and challenging circumstance

Sitting in your Circumstances

There’s a passage I read once that totally changed my perspective on how I’d been living.  It’s found in 2 Kings 7:3-9, situated in the middle of a great famine in the city of Samaria.  The Arameans had surrounded the city, cutting off all their access to supplies so that they experienced a great famine until they surrendered.  The king blamed God, saying “This disaster is from the LORD.  Why should I wait for the LORD any longer?”  Outside the city, the Arameans were enjoying their wealth and their victory over the Samarians trapped inside.

It is in these circumstances we meet four unlikely men who will change things for the city of Samaria.  “Now there were four men with leprosy sitting at the entrance of the city gate.”

Ah, I can relate to these four men.  I doubt when they were little they dreamed of being shunned from their culture for their physical disease which left their skin rotting and making them culturally unclean.  And if that thought every crossed their minds, they were sure it wouldn’t happen during the middle of a famine.

But here they are, in the middle of a famine, cut off from all supplies, not allowed to interact with their families and friends, their bodies wasting away from leprosy.  Depression probably set in.  Anger at God, like their king, who blamed God for their circumstances.

Anyone relate to any of this?  How easy it is to sit in the middle of your grief and pain and questions and wallow?

 

Supporting each other in their Circumstances

“Now there were four men with leprosy sitting at the entrance of the city gate.”

I love how the same verse can have a different emphasis if you just allow God to reveal it to you.  Ahh, how sweet, to see that there were four men, all who were experiencing a similar trial.  They weren’t sitting at the gate alone.  They could relate to the physical, emotional and spiritual pain the other was experiencing, and had established a friendship of sorts.  I don’t know if they were besties, doing everything together, or if they just happened to meet at the gate at certain times of the day and share in their misery together, or maybe this day they met each other for the very first time.  Regardless, they were not alone.  They had found each other for support.  They understood each other better than anyone else could.

Stepping into Blessings

They said to each other, “Why stay here until we die?  If we say, “We’ll go into the city’-the famine is there and we will die.  And if we stay here, we will die.  So let’s go over the camp of the Arameans and surrender.  If they spare us, we live.  If they kill us, then we die.” 2 Kings 7:3-4

Because they had each other for support, because they were not alone anymore, they had the courage to do something.  To not just sit at the gate and complain about their circumstances until they died, but to do something that could change their lives.

Continuing on in 2 Kings 7:5-9: “At dusk they got up and went to the camp of the Arameans.  When they reached the edge of the camp, no one was there, for the Lord had caused the Arameans to hear the sound of chariots and horses and a great army, so that they said to one another, “Look, the king of Israel has hired the Hittite and Egyptian kings to attack us!”  So they got up and fled in the dusk and abandoned their tents and their horses and donkeys.  They left the camp as it was and ran for their lives.

The men who had leprosy reached the edge of the camp, entered one of the tents and ate and drank.  Then they took the silver, gold, and clothes, and went off and hid them.  They returned and entered another tent and took some things from it and hid them also.”

Look at all the wealth, the blessings that these men suddenly experienced.  God paved the way for them to experience a banquet after all the hunger and desperation they had been experiencing.  God wants us to experience that too!  He doesn’t want us to sit by a gate, complaining about our lives and feeling miserable about our circumstances and all our unanswered prayers, when if we just focus our gaze on the good things in front of us, we will see just how many blessings there are for us to experience!

I was so inspired by these men.  They risked their lives to try something.  I’m not saying we need to risk our lives here, but I am saying there is a benefit to risking some vulnerability and sharing what’s going on in our lives with someone other than our husband.  To reach out to a friend.  A Bible study leader.  A support group in your area.  A counselor.  Find people, even if they’re in groups online who can relate to your journey and you can share with and encourage each other.  And experience blessing by doing so.  

We’re not meant to sit at a gate wallowing in our circumstances by ourselves.  We’re meant to experience His provision and blessings.



Do you have someone who has been a true encouragement to you on your journey?  If yes, how have they encouraged you?  If no, who do you need to reach out to find support?

 

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