I'm sure we've all had expectations and we've gotten upset when our expectations weren't met.
For example, I expected to do lots of fun things with my children, go on lots of play dates and adventures. Instead, my children require frequent trips to specialists and therapists due to their special needs. And my reaction was one of anger at God. Anxiety. And depression.
Not fun, right? I was stuck in that unfun place because I was holding onto my expectations and mad that God didn't give me what I wanted.
I was stuck in that place for a long time, until one December I read an all-too-familiar Bible story, but looked at it from Mary's perspective.
Here was a young girl who expected to marry Joseph. As a former teenager, I'm positive she daydreamed about her wedding day, about Joseph being a loving husband, of having children, especially sons and of being a good wife and mother. I doubt she had huge dreams for her life, but she envisioned it with love and marriage before the baby carriage.
And then, cue the angel.
The angel tells her in Luke 1 28-33 that she is going to conceive and give birth to the Messiah. This was something that I'm sure all Jewish girls and mothers longed for, to bring the long-awaited Savior into the world. She must be feeling overwhelmed, unqualified, and honored.
She simply asks one question and is satisfied with the answer. I'm sure I would have had hundreds! Or I would have been like so many of the prophets and like Moses, who all didn't believe they were qualified for the job. Or said no thank you, I don't want to be accused of adultery and stoned, find someone who is married to bear the Messiah. I probably would have come up with excuses after I asked my plethora of questions.
But not Mary. In verse 38 she says "I am the Lord's servant," Mary answered. "May your word to me be fulfilled."
And as I continued reading through the Gospel of Luke, I saw it again and again. Circumstance after circumstance that came up that must have been nowhere near what Mary was expecting.
I think one of the reasons Mary had such a yielded heart is because she knew her place. She was God's servant. She even told the angel so. But sometimes we feel like He has let us down, when He is not here to serve us, we are here to serve Him. Sometimes we forget our place, forget that God is in control and is sovereign, and it's easy to get upset when things don't go our way.
Yielding means we stop with all the thinking, planning, worrying, controlling and instead, live in the moment.
Embrace the journey we are on and the ways we are growing on the journey.
Enjoy every blessing in our life and treasure it in our heart.
No, it's not easy, but it's the easiest way to experience God's peace and joy in our lives.
In fact, let's look at the angels' words to the shepherds in Luke 2:14. "Glory to God in the highest, and peace on earth to those with whom God is pleased."
It says there is peace for those on earth on "whom his favor rests." (NIV). It was on Mary, when the angel came and told her she was favored and going to be the mother of the Messiah. According to Psalm 30:5, His favor is on us for a lifetime.
But the easiest way for any of us to experience peace, is to stop struggling and to simply rest. And we are to rest in this: God is in control, He is for us, and He has a plan. It may not be what we like, but we need to rest in Him. And He will give us peace, strength, and grace upon grace to see His plan come to fruition.
We must be willing to say as Mary did "I am the Lord's servant. Let it be done to me as you said," Luke 1:38. Or as Jesus said, "Not my will, but yours be done," Luke 22:42
Luke 2:19 says "Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart." Oh, how I wish I pondered and treasured the things of God in my life, like Mary. Instead, I tend to start focusing on what's next on my to-do list, or how things aren't going my way.
Mary's mission was simple. To carry Jesus inside her and then share Him with the world. It definitely wasn't full of fun, but she was committed to complete her mission. And that's our mission too. To carry Jesus inside our heart, and in our words and our actions let people see Jesus. No matter what circumstances we're going through.
I highly encourage you to check out this awesome song for releasing your own plans and expectations and embracing God's plans and His will. The first time I heard it, I couldn't sing the words, I was just in tears. The second time, the same thing. But the third time, I was able to sing it with my lips and in my heart, that I want God's will to be done in my life.
If you're a special needs mother who resonated with this message and would like more hope and encouragement, check out my book Embracing This Special Life: Learning to Flourish as a Mother of a Child with Special Needs. :)